by Carey Davidson, Founder & CEO Tournesol Wellness
On the Jewish calendar, early fall is the season of reflection, forgiveness and renewal. In the spirit of reflection and fessing up, I have something to own up to. I’m not great with surprises and I have made questionable choices in the name of not being able to postpone delight.
I have patience at times. I totally rock when it comes to waiting my turn, inspiring gradual change in others and savoring a good cup of coffee. However, when it comes to waiting for exciting news and happy surprises... not so much.
This year I'm admitting to a few lack-of-patience moments in an effort to grow even more in that area of my life. Mom, please forgive me :).
- There may have been a few times when I peeked at my birthday present in advance and I knew exactly what you got me.
- It is also slightly possible that I found out we were going to Disney World when I was 11 and I pretended to be in delightful shock when I was told… sorry.
- I’m sure it wasn’t all that bad from your end, but I do recognize that my incessant begging to know what exactly you meant about an announcement at dinner when I was 14 could have been a tiny bit over the top.
As an aside – I am sorry I wasn’t more excited when the announcement that night was about the impending birth of a new little sister.
“They” say patience is a virtue. Patient people are good, righteous and dignified. They uphold moral standards and serve as examples of outstanding behavior, which was not what I was going for in my younger years. However, in my adulthood, I have a deeper appreciation for patience and have discovered a new impetus for embodying its virtue. After studying Ayurvedic science and practice, I realize that patience is actually a core building block for a healthy life.
According to Ayurveda, the most basic outcome of living a healthy lifestyle is achieving a consistent vibration of Peace, Love and Patience in the body and mind. Healthy eating, sleeping, moving, relationships and breathing all impact our entire being from the tiniest individual cell to the greatest expansion of our mind, spirit and the global consciousness.
Taking stock for myself, I’m golden with two out of three. With a heart the size of Texas, I’m pretty sure I’ve got the Love part down. I make trips to Cape Cod regularly throughout the year, so I’d say I’ve got Peace covered.
How about you? Let's do an imagery exercise together.
Close your eyes. Wait. You can’t read with your eyes closed.
Imagine in your mind’s eye what a cell without patience looks like. Imagine what vibration that cell embodies. Consider the ripple effect of that cellular behavior on all the other cells, organs, functions of the body.
Imagine a train full of people commuting to work without patience. (This NEVER happens in New York so it’ll be a stretch. Apologies in advance.) How does that impatience impact your day at work, how you treat your colleagues, how you relate to your family when you return home at night?
Now instead, picture your cells, your organs, your emotions, your commute, our government (ahem), our global community all living with a beautiful patient rhythm. Hmm. I can certainly see it. I can feel the gentleness in that image, like a delicious book on a warm day with the sound of the sea and the peeping of the birds and squirrels.
So how do we all achieve a baseline of Peace, Love and Patience? It starts with understanding what your unique state of balance looks like and learning to recognize your individual signs and symptoms of imbalance. Once you understand yourself with clarity, then you learn personal strategies to self-regulate and remain resilient in the face of physical and emotional stress.
I make it sound so simple! Truth is, it isn’t difficult. The most challenging part of all of this is making that first decision to actually live in sync with the life you want to lead. And then stick to it.
This year I’m going to continue working on Patience. Patience begins to grow with the breath. According to the Chinese Medicine Five Elements methodology, l’m a Fire woman, so breathing well is one of my big life challenges. I’m not all that surprised that anything linked to patience would push my buttons. But I’m on it and will keep you posted!
Let's chat more about your strengths, your vulnerabilities, your life goals and how your lifestyle is a fit... or not. Email me. I'm always happy to hear from you.
Wishing you all healthy doses of Peace, Love and Patience.